Is it me?
Published on August 12, 2007 By straniera In Life Journals
Depression

5.Psychiatry. a condition of general emotional dejection and withdrawal; sadness greater and more prolonged than that warranted by any objective reason. Compare CLINICAL DEPRESSION.

Clinical Depression

Psychiatry. a depression so severe as to be considered abnormal, either because of no obvious environmental causes, or because the reaction to unfortunate life circumstances is more intense or prolonged than would generally be expected.

~dictionary.com

I have been asked recently if I am depressed. In the past I would have answered with a resounding “no.” But the person who was asking was doing so with sincerity and in fact was voicing a concern I have had myself recently.

After some research, discussion with people who should know, and self reflection I can honestly say no, I am not depressed. Sad, dejected, down in the dumps, feeling the blues, yes, depressed, no.

The main reason made obvious by the definitions stated above: depression seems to have no rhyme or reason. I know the reason for my blues: joblessness. Oh, I would much rather not work than work, but I would also like to be able to afford to get a birthday present and buy ice cream every once in awhile. If my joblessness goes for much longer we won’t even be able to afford to pay for the roof over our heads, let alone putting food in a refrigerator we would no longer have!

I also would very much like to be able to support my husband while he pursues his dream. My lack of any job prospect has gone on so long that he has even considered dropping out of school to support us. After all, being the good husband that he is, he feels the burden of being the provider of the family. But that is just it, I want him to go to school so he can do a job that he not only loves, but will hopefully provide for us in such a way that I won’t have to work and can stay home with the children we hope to have some day.

So much is riding on my getting a professional job that the stress is overwhelming.

And my usual response to stress is to shut down, or at least use my energies to divert my attention from the source of stress. I have done a little of both in the last couple of weeks, but NO MORE! This is my pledge to you honey: tomorrow I will “beat the streets” and I will not rest until I have found the job that will allow us to get on with our lives.

Comments
on Aug 14, 2007
Update:
Not that anyone is reading this...

but I got a job. Not all the details are worked out, but it is a big leap forward!
on Aug 14, 2007
but I got a job. Not all the details are worked out, but it is a big leap forward!


Yay! That is great news. I thought I had commented but it seems to have disappeared. I had an interview yesterday so keep your fingers crossed for me too.
on Aug 14, 2007
A lot of people take the weekend off. Regardless, I'm glad you're not 'depressed' and happy you've got a job now. Hopefully that will get you unblue.
on Aug 14, 2007
Good that you're not depressed. As someone who does suffer that particular ailment I can say that you are very lucky that you don't.
on Aug 19, 2007
Congrats on the job And don't worry about readership...I've been here for years and only a small handful drop by my place on a regular basis (mainly because I am wont to disappear for long periods of time and/or I have this knack for alienating folks (which I do very purposefully to judge their metal and resolve, but that's another story.)

If you ever do get the blues, I found something simple that helped me back in a time when I had them. And I offer this based on what you wrote in the Friday 5s about the aliens.

Go out into the sun. Stretch your arms up to it and close your eyes, and drink in the warmth. Sounds silly, maybe, but it always helped me reconnect.
on Aug 19, 2007

Go out into the sun. Stretch your arms up to it and close your eyes, and drink in the warmth. Sounds silly, maybe, but it always helped me reconnect.


That is great advice! It really does help. I feel the worst when I stay inside all day.

Congrats on the job


Thanks.

And don't worry about readership...


Well, I really haven't been around long enough to expect to have regular readers. Now that I will be going back to work I may not be able to keep up with this like I would like to, but hopefully I will have time to keep bugging you!
on Aug 21, 2007
but I got a job. Not all the details are worked out, but it is a big leap forward!


Congrats! I'm late but I wanted to give a shout out anyway!