Things I hate about me

It's a never ending list

Published on September 8, 2007 By straniera In Life

Small boobs, love handles, wide thighs...big mouth, need for approval, selfishness...the list goes on and on...

2 of my 12 articles are about my insecurity with my own body. Pretty sad. I don't really think about it most of the time, but every once in awhile the nasty though pops back up. Why do we have to constantly compare ourselves?!? Somedays I find myself thinking "I'm so glad I don't look like her" and other days "I really wish I looked like her!" Why can't I just be happy with who I am???

It seemed ironic that this morning in my inbox there was a link to an article about The Body Blues. I identified way too much with this lady.

Changing as we get older is natural and is going to happen whether I want it to or not. I probably look the "best" I'm ever going to look. However, one thing that can get more beautiful over time is who I am on the inside. If I continue to grow and become a better person, a more supportive wife, a more compassionate Christian, and later a selfless mother than I will be cultivating the kind of beauty that lasts and really counts.

That's not to say I shouldn't take care of myself. I like fixing myself up and looking good for my husband. I think it is important to try to stay healthy. In fact, my husband and I have started working out together on a regular basis and buying better for you food to keep around the house.

So today, I resolve to stop worrying about the things I can not change and focus on improving my inner woman. Don't be surprised if you see more articles on this subject...

Comments

RoyLevosh

on Sep 08, 2007

I'm sure there's lots of things to love about you if you'd only just look. I'm sure your husband sees them all the time.

Hang in there

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Moderateman

on Sep 08, 2007

I have never been a pretty boy, so I concentrated on building a personality. My face is all angles, my nose is big and bent from being broken to many times, now I am 61 and have somehow become Distinguished in appearance. At least that is what my friends tell me.

Dr Guy

on Sep 08, 2007

now I am 61 and have somehow become Distinguished in appearance. At least that is what my friends tell me.

And the thing women hate most about men! We become distinguished. They (in their eyes) fall apart.

straniera

on Sep 08, 2007

I'm sure there's lots of things to love about you if you'd only just look. I'm sure your husband sees them all the time.

Yes, he does. I am blessed with an especially sweet and loving husband.
Focusing on the positive is exactly what I'm trying to do. Thanks for sharing the song!

And the thing women hate most about men! We become distinguished. They (in their eyes) fall apart.

Exactly!!!

Please tell all the women in your life what you sincerely find lovely about them. We need to hear it no matter how we might react.

Thanks for the encouragement!

adnauseam

on Sep 08, 2007

Like Doc and MM, I'm in my early sixties and I still love things about myself. Some women still look at us (right, Doc?), and I feel not only flattered but I could handle them too!

Remember also that many men love small boobs. Everyone is different--are you getting enough attention from that man of yours?

straniera

on Sep 08, 2007

are you getting enough attention from that man of yours?

Oh yes. You don't have to worry about us in that department.

Most of my insecurity about breasts comes from the stereotypes I guess. It's hard to convince myself that he really doesn't care. But I guess I should believe him since he isn't prone to lying!

I sort of feel like a bad person since I have a great husband and I am still insecure! That's why I'm going to try to work on my insides. They are obviously what needs the most help!!

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